I am not single, obviously. I write at least once a week about this almost "fantasy" man, who almost seems like a story tale, does he even exist? How come I can't see him? Why don't you go out with him?
With Valentine's Day coming up, I am feeling his absence even more. Dumb marketing strategies giving a girl a complex about being alone! I generally have all single friends, and not single and dating, but single and single. I'm not really sure how this works, and prefer not to know since I love being single and going on dates, just as much as I loved finding the one who I hope to spend my life with. My theory is since I had my dating years in Tidewater area of Virginia, where men are abundant, and there was always a HBCU guy, Army guy, Navy guy, Air Force guy, sometimes Marine Guy, Military Police guy, regular 757 guy, 804 guy if he didn't mind the 40 minute drive, hundreds of colleges in the area guy, and just generally a lot of guys, ok!! It became commonplace that I could walk out of my house, go put gas in my car and come back home with a date or two. Now in the metropolitan area, I guess girls are just used to not dating, or dating sparingly. Yuck.
As I am around them more and more there are so many preconceived notions about how relationships "should be." After hearing these idealic thoughts, I've come up with some thoughts of my own about what relationships are/are not.
1. Relationships are hard and are more than this is what I want to do so this is what your doing.
2.Everything is not out in the open and since you can't follow the other one around all day, you make rules and hope that they are doing the right thing. (Or worse if you have the super honest relationship, someone will get hurt.)
3.You don't ask someone to give up something for you that is part of their soul, you have to learn to work around it or move on.
4.He doesn't suddenly change because you are nagging them, they truly just think "Oh man, she is going to get mad when I do this" and then they do it.
5. Men will look in a fridge for hours and never ever see anything that can be made into a dinner and then he will sit hungry until you return.
6. Men may remember a special day is coming up, but they generally for the life of them don't anything as far as planning before that day.
Recently, I was skyping my BF and two friends were in the room. I told him Valentine's Day was coming up. He said jokingly (i hope), "Oh yea when is it this year, Feb 13?" To which I answered "yea sure." My friends started howling, that I was telling a lie. Well, duh since when has Valentine's Day moved, it's not Thanksgiving? Let him have that extra day to get moving. I have a feeling my present will already be 2 weeks late (the mail takes two weeks to get here.) So lie, if it's a good helpful white lie or one that makes the other person feel better.
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