I have been in international long distance relationships twice in my life. I generally know how they go. I've seen them develop and deteriorate, I've had to listen as girls talk and talk about their significant others at home as they are literally surrounded by handsome, tan, beach bodied boys. My first international long distance "relationship" was already a long distance relationship that we hardly saw each other (him NC, me VA), so were going to be fine. When I got there, I mentioned being in a relationship, oh so was everyone else, but day by day, we started slipping in that we were single. Mine was simple, I only heard from him once or twice in 2 weeks. I stated that wasn't enough and still not hearing from him, I simply changed in a relationship to single on my Facebook, hoped he got the message and moved on with my life.
The second time, the guy was just a friend and as I was overseas our correspondence continued to be stronger and more regular and he even called me on my birthday to wish me a good one even though phone calls were very expensive. When I got home, we started dating, and he was there for me for one of my weakest and hardest part of my life. He showed me he was a rock, by sending me regular emails and facebook message, and I was able to trust him to believe that he could be relied on.
I've seen relationships were they determined that they would be together to matter what, and so they were together. It didn't matter where.
That being said, I haven't heard from BF for a week. We had previously before that week been fighting over the lack of recognition of love, since I had asked for a Valentine's Day present (and I needed to ask) and he willfully (in an almost don't blame me, I'm the good guy way) denied my request. He loves me, I should know by the text messages I receive. We also had previously talked about moving to the next level and getting engaged and he had even purchased the ring, but when it came to the part of us talking about our future, he said that he wouldn't do it for at least a year or more. On his part, he said all I really wanted to do was be engaged and that I was wrong. (trying to call me Kim K.) In my opinion, I am Khloe, I find what I want, fall for it unconditionally, and want to be with it for always as soon as possible. Maybe I'm just country. Shrugs.
I won't be calling him BF anymore. I don't believe that a BF would do that. We previously texted, voxered, skyped, skype messaged, g chat, gmail, facebook chat, facebook messaged, or talked everyday and now I see him on gmail and facebook all the time, but without a message to me. My requests go unanswered by him.
This is another time that he has disappointed me, and though I love that man with everything I have, I know it's not the same, maybe he's too young, maybe he doesn't realize how bad its hurts, but I have to pick up the pieces and start again.
Stay tuned to see if he'll be mentioned again.
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