My loves part 3...Solange

So I am really enjoying sharing my loves with everyone. So I thought I would come back for day #3. Now I don't think it's right to separate things like sisters and that if you like one, you can't like the other, cause come on, if they are sisters than they are similar so you will see someone of the same with both, but I am a Solange girl. Beyonce is everyone's favorites, appeals to almost everyone. But Solange, she sing herself into a corner for her beliefs. I love her style, love how unforgiving she is about her style, she only makes music, that she likes, she will cut her hair off (who cares she rocks weaves, but i love the style) her clothes, i wish i could put it together like that...my bohemian is truly bohemian loll....

Now on to her new album, my crew of girls in DC are of course going to see her at the Black Cat, after I asked them if they heard her new album (FYI they hadn't). IF you hadn't heard her album, it is raw, truth, say what you want....I have been accused of airing out too much on my blog, but my girl aired it out! Believe me, if you ever just had a day you were fed up, and not getting the chance to take it out on him, and not wanting to accidently take it out on someone else...you might just write it out or sing it out.

I've loved Solange since her Sol-Angels and Hadley St. Dreams days, with I Decided, part 2, T.O.N.Y., lawd don't get me started. some of her songs and there for when you are in a funk, she'll come get funky with u.

I was jamming to her song "Some things never f**king work" from the new 'True' album ever since my jaw dropped the first time I heard it. Now for style just check her out below...these are my favorites...


 

My loves continued....Kerry Washington and Scandal

I have so much to be thankful for. I challenge myself this year to not be so "American" and assume I deserve everything and just be extremely thankful for everything in my life. Really...my cute two-story townhouse for cheap rent, living in Charlotte where I wanted to live for years, (dream realized), having money to go to school (even though none for much else), friends (though far), family (though far) and LOTS AND LOTS of opportunity, plus everything annoying is on a timer.

Now to switch gears, yesterday I brought you one of my loves Quvenzhane Wallis, so I thought how fitting for the beginning of 2013 is for me to talk about some of my loves.

Now I got on the Scandal bandwagon a bit late, but after one long Hulu session, plus a night at my crazy's friends with a DVR player, it seems that I am all caught up, in love, slightly obsessed. And I don't obsess lightly. I always thought my personality was prone to obsessions so I made sure that I didn't connect to anything too tightly. But Scandal, has love, passion, mystery, twists and turns, and my favorite Kerry Washington.
Now I loved Kerry Washington from jump....I mean back in the "Our Song" and "Save the Last Dance" day. I thought something about her was so beautiful and she reminded me of me.

Fast forward to her in Common's and Maxwell's video, I realized that she had blossomed before our eyes. She was sexy, intelligent, and seductress and now I knew that I wanted to be like her.

Last King of Scotland, Ray and now Django, she is talented, multifaceted, and can make us believe any role she is playing.

Getting to watch her every week on Scandal, full of poise, intelligence, always has the answer, men fighting for her, her love ground wrong but unshakable, Gosh, I hope to be her. And I hope one day someone dresses me like her, cause her outfits...wow....

uhh but I'll never be that skinny.



 

Quvenzhane Wallis for an Oscar.....

Hi loves, I am gushing with such pride for Quvenzhane Wallis, a girl who I have been falling for quite awhile after seeing Beasts of the Southern Wild during limited screenings in a small theater that somehow 7 of my friends, my friends' friends, and a crush, were all in there (sprinkled throughout the theater none of us got a seat together) One...7 friends coming together in DC....surprising. This movie....was a WOW.

Quvenzhane played a young girl named Hushpuppy that lived in the Bathtub, and she tugged at my heart strings almost immediately. (I was told she looked like me....but then again brown skin, crazy afro...who doesn't?)

She has been nominated for Best Actress at the Oscars, the youngest girl to ever receive that honor. And she has a huge group of people pulling for her.

I have stayed pulling up her name looking for new movies that she will be in and while waiting for Boneshaker to come out, I see that she will be back on the main screen for the movie, Twelve Years A Slave, along with some heavy hitters.

Nazie (can I call you that? cause I consider us friends, like you were one of my kids from school), just know we are proud of you, we are supporting you and we think that you are amazing!!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/10/quvenzhane-wallis-oscars-best-actress_n_2446855.html?utm_hp_ref=entertainment#slide=1965285




 

This is what I was talking about the other day!! Lying, cheating, stealing...cause it's all too easy

http://www.chicagotribune.com/features/life/ct-tribu-remarkable-pope-20130105,0,4731331.story

LOVE!

Welcome back Spring Semester MBAs

" I have dropped effervescent intellect into the half-empty glass of my life and soon my cup will runneth over...."pg 67- rebel yell

Girl Lisa ponderings

Girl Lisa jumps up from her bed, sweat on her brow, face twisted up with a bad memory. It had happened again, the nightmare where someone has hurt her and though she never can remember what happened, she always knows where she goes to feel protected. Like in real life, there has always been one man (aside from her father) that could take care of her and truly protect her.

But she had made a choice and now he was gone. She was left to reflect on whether she had made the right decision. Back then she had choices, men throwing themselves at her, the one who always stood beside her, she now felt that she had outgrown. He would always be there, but the new guy, now that was her future.

And she had loved them both. "How silly and immature" she thought now, but would she make the same decision now? Right after some of their best times together, she told him, that she had met someone else. She had begged him all summer to visit her to try something, to be adventurous and spontaneous, but he had declined. Perhaps too shy, too country. He wanted things to stay like it was. He always said, " I'll always be here and you can always visit."

The dream is always the same. Girl Lisa has a duffle bag in her hand and tears in her eyes. She knocks on the door and it is raining in the background. He opens the door, sees her face and opens his arms wide for her to step in and embrace her. He holds her so tight she knows he wil make everything better. He always did. He was always there for her during the relationship. It was her that broke up with him and hurt his heart with no explanation. Just...she had found someone that was a better fit for her.

So now when she looks for him to put her broken pieces back together. He is gone. He's not there anymore and he has someone else to protect and love.

Girl Lisa is left standing in the rain.

Ethics in the real world

I almost forgot how I wanted to mentioned this because I was so appalled by people (actually all men, but women weren't exempt) and how they rationalized wrongdoing.

Twice recently I have thought to myself "is this real?" First dealing with school and cheating. Let me backtrack a moment. I went to William and Mary, traditional values and honor code followers. We revelled in being a school where you could leave an Ipod or a laptop at your table go use the bathroom and come back and it hasn't moved. We did not cheat because we would to represent the very best of ourselves. I always knew and believed that so I didn't notice how much, how often WM drilled it into our heads. It worked (well at least for me), my classmates and I were very much ethical workers in the real world. We had a sense of right and wrong, and knew to choose right, and question wrong behavior.

Flashforward to now....I'm in school again. These younguns' and international students are something else! Blantant crazy cheating, just pure not learning for knowledge sake, coping homeworks and couldn't even write down much less learn anything on the paper. The conference in Florida I sat in on a panel that discussed how flagrant cheaters had become almost throwing it in your face and daring you to say that they did something wrong. Full of excuses for why doing wrong is ok and not even having the sense to feel embarassed, disappointed in themselves or feel an ounce of remorse! My God (mind you I'm calling to Him right now) what the world is coming too.

Part 2: Upon finding out someone is cheating, I really wanted to figure out how dare they think it's ok. Mind you I was raised differently, but what really makes it ok for you to do wrong. It's funny within the same week, I had these conversation with 1. a guy that cheats on his schoolwork and 2. a guy that cheats with his girl.

Guy #1: He happened to be in my group for a project we were working on. I knew previously that he cheats on tests in class, loudly whispering what is the answer to this? He borrows others work, so he can make sure that his is similar, and turning in the same papers for multiple courses more. (Oddly, this wasn't helping him get good grades, so maybe there is vindication in that). Of course our project had peer grading meaning if I said he didn't give a 100%, he would share 100% of the grade. He asked me point blank (cause believe me I don't mind) would Americans ever do that, because he coming from another culture, he would never "hurt" someones score by giving them a lower than 100. Ha, I reminded him that he would be hurting his own score by not giving his all, and making others pick up his slack that is not how group projects are successful. The group isn't hurting the member the member is hurting himself and the group. Ha. (and I think my voice got a lil too serious...we changed the subject, but I know he remembered what I said).

Guy #2: I have been talking to a guy friend who has been at the least not doing his girlfriend completely right. But rule number one he says, if you don't get caught, it's not cheating. And rule number two, only having sex is cheating. Hmm....so I challenged him, what if I told her. What if I showed her proof (believe me I had proof) He laughed and said I would never do that. Why would I mess up the good thing they were having? Then it would be my fault if they didn't work out, not his wrongdoing.

We need to change society. It seems to forever be the whistleblower that gets in trouble and not the person doing wrong. When see senators and other important figures cheating, fault goes to the woman they are cheating with, or the wife that was not good enough. When figures are caught with their hand in the cookie jar, they are laud as great thieves splashed over the media headlines, sure to live in infamy. We need people to get in trouble for their actions, for people to applaud when pointing out wrongdoing, we are not tattletailers, we are the ones trying to keep the world honest.

Maybe snitches shouldn't get stitches, they should get riches..... (PS do you know for big cases whistleblowers can receive a reward in the thousands or millions for turning someone in that is doing fraud....#imjustsayin (You already know Imma turn you in).

Animal Passion

OOOOOOOOOoooooo..... Have you ever just felt this connection to someone? Completely lust...it just flocks over you. Every time, I mean every time. It's so bad you can't even see this person during daylight hours walking in the mall without thinking about him...well you know. I am told that I even get a look in my eye, so much that they know I will say yes to almost anything. UHOH.

I mean what's a girl supposed to do? Is it bad that I got bad? (LOL like the song says "I gotta bad and that ain't good") Especially if he doesn't have it bad for me. Mind you my head is not very clear whenever I am near him, so I have to wait weeks or months to get mad and it melts 99% of the time if I see him.

Not good for dating, not good for love, not good for relationships, good for ?? But can you just let that power go? Really?? It feels so magnetic.

I'm walking the line of doing something big in my love life....but that can't happen if I keep doing stuff that I used to be doing. I have grown-up ideas. Working on getting myself ready for grown up love. Glad he'll be all too far away for me to feel the passion...cause I'm not sure if I could stop it.