I almost forgot how I wanted to mentioned this because I was so appalled by people (actually all men, but women weren't exempt) and how they rationalized wrongdoing.
Twice recently I have thought to myself "is this real?" First dealing with school and cheating. Let me backtrack a moment. I went to William and Mary, traditional values and honor code followers. We revelled in being a school where you could leave an Ipod or a laptop at your table go use the bathroom and come back and it hasn't moved. We did not cheat because we would to represent the very best of ourselves. I always knew and believed that so I didn't notice how much, how often WM drilled it into our heads. It worked (well at least for me), my classmates and I were very much ethical workers in the real world. We had a sense of right and wrong, and knew to choose right, and question wrong behavior.
Flashforward to now....I'm in school again. These younguns' and international students are something else! Blantant crazy cheating, just pure not learning for knowledge sake, coping homeworks and couldn't even write down much less learn anything on the paper. The conference in Florida I sat in on a panel that discussed how flagrant cheaters had become almost throwing it in your face and daring you to say that they did something wrong. Full of excuses for why doing wrong is ok and not even having the sense to feel embarassed, disappointed in themselves or feel an ounce of remorse! My God (mind you I'm calling to Him right now) what the world is coming too.
Part 2: Upon finding out someone is cheating, I really wanted to figure out how dare they think it's ok. Mind you I was raised differently, but what really makes it ok for you to do wrong. It's funny within the same week, I had these conversation with 1. a guy that cheats on his schoolwork and 2. a guy that cheats with his girl.
Guy #1: He happened to be in my group for a project we were working on. I knew previously that he cheats on tests in class, loudly whispering what is the answer to this? He borrows others work, so he can make sure that his is similar, and turning in the same papers for multiple courses more. (Oddly, this wasn't helping him get good grades, so maybe there is vindication in that). Of course our project had peer grading meaning if I said he didn't give a 100%, he would share 100% of the grade. He asked me point blank (cause believe me I don't mind) would Americans ever do that, because he coming from another culture, he would never "hurt" someones score by giving them a lower than 100. Ha, I reminded him that he would be hurting his own score by not giving his all, and making others pick up his slack that is not how group projects are successful. The group isn't hurting the member the member is hurting himself and the group. Ha. (and I think my voice got a lil too serious...we changed the subject, but I know he remembered what I said).
Guy #2: I have been talking to a guy friend who has been at the least not doing his girlfriend completely right. But rule number one he says, if you don't get caught, it's not cheating. And rule number two, only having sex is cheating. Hmm....so I challenged him, what if I told her. What if I showed her proof (believe me I had proof) He laughed and said I would never do that. Why would I mess up the good thing they were having? Then it would be my fault if they didn't work out, not his wrongdoing.
We need to change society. It seems to forever be the whistleblower that gets in trouble and not the person doing wrong. When see senators and other important figures cheating, fault goes to the woman they are cheating with, or the wife that was not good enough. When figures are caught with their hand in the cookie jar, they are laud as great thieves splashed over the media headlines, sure to live in infamy. We need people to get in trouble for their actions, for people to applaud when pointing out wrongdoing, we are not tattletailers, we are the ones trying to keep the world honest.
Maybe snitches shouldn't get stitches, they should get riches..... (PS do you know for big cases whistleblowers can receive a reward in the thousands or millions for turning someone in that is doing fraud....#imjustsayin (You already know Imma turn you in).
Twice recently I have thought to myself "is this real?" First dealing with school and cheating. Let me backtrack a moment. I went to William and Mary, traditional values and honor code followers. We revelled in being a school where you could leave an Ipod or a laptop at your table go use the bathroom and come back and it hasn't moved. We did not cheat because we would to represent the very best of ourselves. I always knew and believed that so I didn't notice how much, how often WM drilled it into our heads. It worked (well at least for me), my classmates and I were very much ethical workers in the real world. We had a sense of right and wrong, and knew to choose right, and question wrong behavior.
Flashforward to now....I'm in school again. These younguns' and international students are something else! Blantant crazy cheating, just pure not learning for knowledge sake, coping homeworks and couldn't even write down much less learn anything on the paper. The conference in Florida I sat in on a panel that discussed how flagrant cheaters had become almost throwing it in your face and daring you to say that they did something wrong. Full of excuses for why doing wrong is ok and not even having the sense to feel embarassed, disappointed in themselves or feel an ounce of remorse! My God (mind you I'm calling to Him right now) what the world is coming too.
Part 2: Upon finding out someone is cheating, I really wanted to figure out how dare they think it's ok. Mind you I was raised differently, but what really makes it ok for you to do wrong. It's funny within the same week, I had these conversation with 1. a guy that cheats on his schoolwork and 2. a guy that cheats with his girl.
Guy #1: He happened to be in my group for a project we were working on. I knew previously that he cheats on tests in class, loudly whispering what is the answer to this? He borrows others work, so he can make sure that his is similar, and turning in the same papers for multiple courses more. (Oddly, this wasn't helping him get good grades, so maybe there is vindication in that). Of course our project had peer grading meaning if I said he didn't give a 100%, he would share 100% of the grade. He asked me point blank (cause believe me I don't mind) would Americans ever do that, because he coming from another culture, he would never "hurt" someones score by giving them a lower than 100. Ha, I reminded him that he would be hurting his own score by not giving his all, and making others pick up his slack that is not how group projects are successful. The group isn't hurting the member the member is hurting himself and the group. Ha. (and I think my voice got a lil too serious...we changed the subject, but I know he remembered what I said).
Guy #2: I have been talking to a guy friend who has been at the least not doing his girlfriend completely right. But rule number one he says, if you don't get caught, it's not cheating. And rule number two, only having sex is cheating. Hmm....so I challenged him, what if I told her. What if I showed her proof (believe me I had proof) He laughed and said I would never do that. Why would I mess up the good thing they were having? Then it would be my fault if they didn't work out, not his wrongdoing.
We need to change society. It seems to forever be the whistleblower that gets in trouble and not the person doing wrong. When see senators and other important figures cheating, fault goes to the woman they are cheating with, or the wife that was not good enough. When figures are caught with their hand in the cookie jar, they are laud as great thieves splashed over the media headlines, sure to live in infamy. We need people to get in trouble for their actions, for people to applaud when pointing out wrongdoing, we are not tattletailers, we are the ones trying to keep the world honest.
Maybe snitches shouldn't get stitches, they should get riches..... (PS do you know for big cases whistleblowers can receive a reward in the thousands or millions for turning someone in that is doing fraud....#imjustsayin (You already know Imma turn you in).
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