In college, I was often the person you went to for encouragement, though I didn't give advice I was always a "yes" pusher. Do it and try it was my mantra. Relying heavily on my faith, people were encouraged when I would take my own leaps, and upon making it they felt stronger in their decisions. I lead by example showing I can do all things and was very confident. When you are waking through exactly in the steps that God has planned for you, it was easy for things to go right. I remember showing friends the power of Christ in something as simple as praying for a parking space.
Lately I've noticed my encouragement has no longer been, well encouraging. After saying things, I heard expressions change to agitation and frustration in their voices. What happened to my talent? I stopped and really listened to myself. Who was that person voice-filled with judgments and frustrations, trying to give words of encouragement. And I realized I wasn't encouraged. How could I be? I was no longer walking in the steps that God laid out for me, so my confidence had quickly faded. My previously encouraging voice now sounded pushy and judgmental. My happiness/love/help was not there so I knew that I needed to shut down and find happiness, faith, steps, and encouragement in myself before I will give advice/encouragement to another. So I searched myself, saw myself. And now I hear the love, faith, happiness, and now I feel more confident.
Are your words encouraging or pushy? Do people shy away from talking to you or can't wait to tell you their good news and plans?
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